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Dealing with inherited possesions and letting go

Last April my mother passed away. I'm the only child and sole heir. I'm struggling with what to do with her stuff, and as a result, her house. She LOVED her stuff. Her house, now mine, is sitting unoccupied and still full of her possessions. I can't move forward with selling her house until I get rid of the contents, and I can't really rent it furnished with all of her furniture inside. I have to move forward but can't figure out how. [more inside]
posted by karst on Jan 23, 2019 - 37 answers

How can I honestly be there for my mother?

Looking for suggestions and mid to long-term strategies for being there and caring for my mom despite several issues related to my childhood. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by longjump on Nov 27, 2017 - 8 answers

Family question re siblings

Mrs. L’s two grand nieces (A. aged 11) and (S. aged 14) are back home with their mother from staying with their father for the summer break. This has been happening for the last several years with no problems. However, A. (previously very much a Mommy’s girl) now says she is unhappy and wants to return to live with her father. [more inside]
posted by lungtaworld on Aug 14, 2017 - 11 answers

Mother/daughters day of fun, Cleveland style

Both my adult daughters and I will have a few days in April (20, 21, 22, 23) where we are all together!! There's also a birthday in the mix, and I am looking for something special to do. [more inside]
posted by LaBellaStella on Feb 13, 2017 - 8 answers

Form of Address: Mother and Son Edition.

A while back, I was dining out with my mother. She is a widow, I am her unmarried son. Our server (who spoke English as a second language), addressed us as "Mr. & Mrs. Renault". I was squicked out. An address of 'Mr. & Mrs.', while perhaps technically correct, has a suggestion that we are a Mr. and Mrs. of each other, which we are most definitely not. So how should he have addressed us? [more inside]
posted by Capt. Renault on Jan 24, 2017 - 13 answers

How do I resolve conflicting holiday goals?

I'm planning a trip to celebrate holidays, partly with my girlfriend and partly with my mother, and I'm having a communication / conflict issue between the two. Can you help? Details inside... [more inside]
posted by Homeboy Trouble on Sep 24, 2016 - 25 answers

Methods to build self-esteem in troubled mother?

How do I help to build self-esteem in my "crazy" (bipolar, BPD), overweight, aging, and unsuccessful mother, who lives in a small town with not much in the way of community, and who refuses to seek medical treatment for her mental health and physical issues? [more inside]
posted by erattacorrige on Jul 20, 2016 - 25 answers

Supporting boyfriend through mom's (terminal?) illness and the holidays

I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. About a month in he told me that his mom was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor 8 months before we met. His mom has done radiation and was seeming to get better in the last few months. He was making plans for me to meet his family for the first time on Thanksgiving. He just found out his mother has taken a turn for the worse (she's having difficulty walking), and I'd like to know: 1) how I can support him and 2) how to navigate meeting his family during this difficult time. [more inside]
posted by lafemma on Sep 29, 2015 - 11 answers

She gave up all her dreams, so that I could buy ice cream

Many years ago, I heard a song that included the following lyrics: "She gave up all her dreams, so that I could buy ice cream" and I haven't been able to find it again. [more inside]
posted by chara on Jun 2, 2015 - 3 answers

Finding friends in Fresno?

My mother moved to Fresno 4 years ago, to be near her sister. She likes it here, more or less. However, she is 65, single, bored, and I have run out of suggestions. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by ananci on Sep 20, 2014 - 11 answers

1970s science fiction short story about a young mother going crazy?

There's this science fiction story I can recall reading in at least one anthology, if not multiples. It is told from the perspective of a young mother who is going crazy dealing with her kid(s). The writing is very stark and bleak, but it's a fun story nonetheless. I am fairly certain the author was a woman. I believe it's from the late 60s or early to mid 1970s. [more inside]
posted by Slinga on Aug 21, 2014 - 9 answers

Dealing with parental pressures to find a job

I recently graduated, but I'm already feeling pressure to find a job now or else be bombarded with my mom's criticism. How should I deal with this until I get work? [more inside]
posted by bluekazoo on Jun 18, 2014 - 22 answers

Helping 7 yo process mother's death

So my sister-in-law had a stroke last week and passed away on Friday. My niece's are 7 and 19. The older one, of course groks it, but I'm not sure how much the younger one is getting. [more inside]
posted by jacy on Nov 19, 2013 - 25 answers

How can I make my mother see she needs to see a psychologist?

Hi all, I don't live at home anymore, as I studied abroad, but frequently come home during holidays. During such return visit, and the ocassional visit by my family, I always get a good taste of my mother's uglier side. I dont want to diagnose her myself, but can say that her bipolar and control freakish behaviour is affecting the whole family (my father and brother) for as long as I can remember. I would dare to even describe it as abusive; minor problems like a dirty plate forgotten on a kitchen counter can escalate into agressive full blown shout out, and in general there were moments where I really had to remind myself that, whoa, this is my mother. [more inside]
posted by ahtlast93 on Aug 31, 2013 - 13 answers

That didn't go how I planned

A rough first impression . . . [more inside]
posted by chainsofreedom on Aug 18, 2013 - 25 answers

What the heck is wrong with my mother?!

My mom is well-meaning. She tries hard to be good and kind. I would be in dead a ditch without her. However, she is far and away the most emotionally manipulative person I have ever met. The most succinct way I can describe her behavior this: Every conversation about a problem-- even if it's not related to her behavior-- turns into a conversation about what a bad person she is. YANMPsychologist. But she doesn't have one and won't get one, and I need some kind of term to frame her behavior so I can look up resources on how to talk to her without wanting to scream. [more inside]
posted by the liquid oxygen on Mar 4, 2013 - 28 answers

Men: How was your mom awesome during your teen years?

Men: how was your mom awesome during your teenage years? [more inside]
posted by SinAesthetic on Aug 29, 2012 - 19 answers

Yes, I understand Mother.

I have a poor relationship with with my parent and looking for advice to improve family relations. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit on Aug 11, 2012 - 7 answers

When will the time come that what my mom says does not matter to me

how not to feel the need to justify myself in front of my parents. Because their approval should not matter at this point of my life, but I am still angry when they compares me to others in achievement. [more inside]
posted by akomom on May 3, 2012 - 8 answers

What not to wear, septuagenarian edition

Should I tell my 71-year-old mother that some of her clothing is ridiculous? [more inside]
posted by semacd on Mar 31, 2012 - 72 answers

It's time for Baby Buster to leave the nest.

What can I do to help my family break out of a negative relationship cycle? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust on May 3, 2011 - 16 answers

Help me feel better about leaving my baby for a business trip

I am going to be away from my baby for five days. Help me know that he will be OK without me. [more inside]
posted by bq on Feb 9, 2011 - 17 answers

No cheese for Mother's Day

Help me find a non-cheesy short poem/quote/verse to put inside a Mother's Day card. [more inside]
posted by ellieBOA on Feb 24, 2010 - 4 answers

This American Life episode assisted suicide story?

This American Life filter - relatively recently, (maybe a rebroadcast?) heard part of story re man who assisted his mother to end her life and how he felt - I've searched their archives for mother and for son; can't find it. Also searched AskMefi some, too many hits. Can anyone help?
posted by judybxxx on Feb 24, 2010 - 5 answers

Books about growing up without a mom

I'm looking for novels for my little cousin about growing up without a mother. [more inside]
posted by Verdandi on Jan 1, 2010 - 28 answers

How to handle Christmas stay envy?

What's the best way to stand up to my mother about Christmas and to handle her jealousy about our better relationship with my partner's parents? She's determined to make the holiday season into a zero sum game with my partner's mother [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2009 - 34 answers

What to buy Mum for her 65th birthday?

My mum will be 65 on March 18. She can just about buy anything her wee little heart desires. I cannot because money is, well, in short supply. What should I get/buy/do for her birthday? [more inside]
posted by deborah on Mar 8, 2005 - 21 answers

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